When Your Teen Pushes You Away: What They Really Need

It’s one of the hardest parts of parenting a teen with depression—feeling like they’re shutting you out just when you want to be there for them the most. You ask how they’re doing, and they shrug. You try to offer help, and they snap back or disappear into their room. It’s painful, frustrating, and confusing. You’re trying to help, so why do they keep pushing you away?

The truth is, your teen isn’t rejecting you. They’re struggling. Depression makes even basic interactions feel exhausting. It convinces them that they’re a burden, that no one understands, that nothing will help. Their distance isn’t about you—it’s about the weight they’re carrying inside.

So what can you do? First, don’t take it personally. Their withdrawal isn’t a reflection of your parenting or your love. It’s their way of coping, even if it doesn’t make sense from the outside. Instead of forcing conversations, let them know you’re there. A simple “I love you, and I’m here whenever you’re ready to talk” can go a long way.

Another thing to remember is that connection doesn’t always have to come through words. Sometimes, just sitting beside them while watching a show, going for a drive, or leaving a small note on their nightstand can remind them they’re not alone. It’s about presence, not pressure.

If you’re feeling lost on how to connect with your teen during this time, you’re not alone. I offer a free Kick Your Teen’s Depression to the Curb session where we can talk about what’s happening in your home and practical ways to rebuild trust and communication. You don’t have to have all the answers—sometimes, just showing up is enough.

Your teen may not say it, but they still need you. Keep showing up, even when it feels like they don’t want you to. Your love and consistency are more powerful than depression’s lies.

Book your free session here.