What Not to Say to Your Depressed Teen (And What to Say Instead)

When your teen is struggling with depression, every word feels like it carries extra weight. You want to say the right thing, but sometimes what’s meant to be encouraging can actually make them feel worse. Here are a few common phrases to avoid—and what to say instead.

“Just think positive.”Depression isn’t a mindset choice. Instead, try: “I know you’re feeling really down, and I’m here to listen. You don’t have to go through this alone.”

“You have so much to be grateful for.”Gratitude is important, but depression makes it hard to feel it. Instead, try: “I know things feel really heavy right now. I believe in you, and I’m here to support you.”

“You’re just being dramatic.”Dismissing their emotions can make them feel even more isolated. Instead, try: “I see that you’re struggling, and your feelings matter. Let’s figure out what can help.”

Words can be a bridge or a barrier. When in doubt, choose listening over lecturing. A simple “I love you, and I’m here” can be the most powerful thing your teen hears all day.

If you’re struggling to communicate with your teen, I’d love to help. Book a free Kick Your Teen’s Depression to the Curb session, and we’ll work through how to talk to your teen in a way that builds connection instead of conflict.

Depression tries to convince teens they’re alone, but your words can remind them they’re not. Keep showing up, keep speaking with love, and keep believing in their ability to heal.

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